A True Diva
I am part of this interesting group on Facebook called IMOW – “In My Own World – Where the Creative, Deep, Artistic, Esoteric and Wacky minds meet.” A member of this group wrote something that left me shouting AMEN. So I wanted to share it with you guys, particularly females, so you can shout AMEN to:
Embracing My Inner Diva
Parting words of wisdom: embrace your inner diva! My best friend truly is a wise beauty. If you’re thinking that’s ridiculous or something to that affect then you, like me, have given diva a negative connotation. So let’s start by reassessing the word diva.
Diva was originally used to describe opera singers with exceptional talent. Thank you Wikipedia! And there’s the urban dictionary definition which says a diva is…and I quote “a bitchy woman that must have her way exactly, or no way at all. Often rude and belittles people, believes that everyone is beneath her and thinks that she is so much more loved than what she really is. Selfish, spoiled, and overly dramatic.” The other option the urban dictionary gives us is “a female version of a hustler.” Makes me wonder if Beyonce uses the urban dictionary as a point of reference, or if the writers of the urban dictionary are huge Beyonce fans. Regardless, neither of those definitions are what I’m looking for.
So if I may, I’d like to make up a definition for myself. Being a diva to me will from now on mean loving me enough to treat myself like a princess. You don’t have to treat others badly or pretend that you’re better than others; you don’t even have to sing opera. Just love yourself enough to spend time on yourself, to spend money on yourself, give yourself a little TLC and then some. AND not feeling bad about it.
Here’s how I’ve come to see it, with a little help. If you don’t treat yourself like you’re worth something, no one else will. Why would your dream man surprise you with special things if you never do it for yourself?
You can’t be a great wife, mum or friend if you don’t give yourself some room to just love you. Those roles are privileges’ to be in and they should not feel like burdens…but of course they will if you never have time for you and you keep doing things for others. I’m a giver…I just give and give and give. I’m not going to try and change that, I’m just going to learn to give to myself.
This blog is about love, and I’m starting with myself. I’m going to romance myself and treat myself like the diva I deserve to be. Then I won’t have to worry about Mr Right coming along or worry about Mr Wrong manipulating his way in my life. You attract what you are!! I want to be the “me” that attract the best of the best. And I’m moving from a place of wanting to a place of taking. Pro-activeness!